Looks or Personality?

I've been rather busy and I have to apologize for that, my life has been caught up in school. BUT now I'm back and I'm discussing a topic that for a few people can have a huge effect on their self Esteem. So here's my question to you: Do you go for looks or personality? And be honest, because I think it's time that people finally realize the true beauty of inner beauty and not outer beauty. Yeah sure you should be attracted to the person you like, but does their looks have to be an requirement for you to at least be friends or even more? Recently I went to a party, and this guy had told me that I'm not the most attractive girl here but I am friendly. My response: What the Cabbage? What do my looks have to do with anything? So there I was talking to a pretty decent guy...feeling not good enough. Yes, the very confident Candice felt like dirt. All because a guy told me that I didn't pass his requirements to be his friend or more? And that had taken its toll on me, every time I wake up in the morning, I don't feel good enough, every time I have a conversation with a guy the thoughts that play in my head are: "He doesn't find you attractive, so why bother?" But why should I be taken a back by a guy who only meet me? Wise words from my mom : "Personality is the most important thing because at the end of the day that's the only thing that'll never change" If you still think that looks are important, then that is your decision, I'm not trying to change your views but I am trying to make you aware of what effect you can have on people, even though you think you don't you still do. And I end off with a thought: Would you rather have a boyfriend/ girlfriend who's dorky, but a total sweetheart? Or would you have a really hot guy/girl who is a player and flirts with everyone ? (Might be a generalization, but half of the time it is true). Think about that. 

Till Next Time and I mean it this time...  (1 August 2013)

Love 

Candice

Whats Wrong With Just Being You?

To anyone that ever told you you're no good... they're no better. We live in a society where they ask you to be yourself but they judge you anyway, but I tell you as a friend, as a blogger- Do not let it get to you. You were created for a reason, you were created to be important to somebody one day, why should you change yourself when somebody out there might just love every single thing about you that you might not like? I come across people every day talking about things about their physical aspect that they'd like to change. CHANGE is a good thing but only for a good reason. Ladies: Don't become skinny or get a piercing because you want to impress a boy. Guys: Dont get buff because you want to impress a lady or your group of friends. If that certain person has a problem with you, that is their problem not YOURS! I repeat, DO NOT change to impress people! When I was 14 years old, I was in a terrible relationship with this guy who empowered me in every aspect of my life, he had control over which friends I see during the weekend to what type of clothes I should wear, it took me a year and a half to realize that this guy that I thought loved me for me had in fact loved me for what he had created, what he had seen perfect and completely destroyed me as a person. Obviously it took me a while to get myself back but what my message to whoever is reading this is: You should never ever doubt yourself, you were not created to be perfect, you were created to make mistakes and to learn from them, whoever tells you that you should change is obviously jealous of being you.

When you are single, people ask whether you have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
When you have one, they ask is there any future?
When you are engaged, they ask about the wedding?
When you get married, they ask when will you have a baby?
When you already have one, they ask when is little sister or brother coming?
When you get...divorced, they ask why what happened?
If you moved on, they ask why so quickly?

People will never stop asking.


If you are proud of who you are and you don't care about what people think about you, LIKE it, because it's YOUR life and YOU alone should decide how to live it.



Till next time..

Love

Candice

Thy shall not C.H.E.A.T.

Cheating doesn't mean you have to kiss, meet or have sex with a third party. Once you find yourself deleting texts and e-mails so your partner won't see them, you are already there. It is like a cancer it develops slowly but you will surely feel the pain when its fully grown. The funny thing is most of the times, people try to find what they already have because they don't appreciate what they have. Remember the grass may look green on the other side but what if you could just invest time and energy by watering the one that you have. Wouldn't the world be a better place to be today?

Can you imagine how strong your relationship would be if you would not waste your energy, resources and time on things that have no future. Secret, small, hidden relationships are like ticks they suck all the good things out of your marriage or relationship and makes it unstable. It will take you more effort to repair what you would have damaged and the sad thing is sometimes those wounds might never heal.

Now with these so called social networks (Facebook, Skype, Whatsapp, Gtalk, iChat and many other platforms)- so many marriages and relationships are being damaged behind the scenes. Have you ever calculated the time that you invest in these social networks? What if that time can be used to promote those areas that you are struggling? Evaluate what the gain and losses that you have at the end of the day because in every conversation its either you are gaining or you are losing?

Stop 'sexting' and flirting with those people- Yes you know them. Imagine your partner  reading the messages that you receive, would he/she reply with a free heart on your behalf???? If the answer is NO, then that is an unhealthy chat/ talk that you are having, STOP it before its too late. Some mistakes will cost you for a life time yet you could have just avoid them by just ignoring that chick/dude who now loves you because you have been turned into a better 'asset' by your current partner. Where were they when you were struggling?

Please may you all get rid of all the parasitic relationships that will always be a treat to your relationships' health. Fight for what is right and never give up on the one you Love. Yes l said health because you have to know and take care of it just like your body. Love it as you love your body, maintain it as you maintain your skin, teeth, hair and nails. True love means hard-work. Do not apply if you are not prepared to take the risks. Stay out for a relationship if you still want to fool around (but that has its own price) because a relationship calls for great deal of commitment.

Most of the young people think that they will start being faithful when they get married- Word of Advice: (You can never teach an old dog new tricks). That is why they are so many broken families because people think they still have time to adjust. Start practicing being true to yourself when no one is watching because that's who you really are. Besides its by nature that what goes around comes around- Do you think the person that you got out of a secret affair will stop just because you are now with her/him?
Feel free to post comments for discussion. I am here to discuss.

Till next time


Love Candice 

New Chapter, New Beginnings

Love is like two people holding a rubber band, we pull, then one person lets go, it's the person who held on that gets hurt. Yes I'm sure we've all heard and seen quotes like these and sometimes the people who posted the quotes are the people who have been through hell and back in terms of relationships. But why be depressed after the relationship happened? Why go into a dark state of not talking to anyone because the one person who promised they wouldn't hurt you did... People make false promises ALL the time. Remember when your own parents told you that the tooth fairy exists, do you also remember seeing your own parents slipping money under your pillow? Remember thinking that Santa Claus climbed down the chimney and ate the cookies and milk, do you also remember seeing your parents putting the presents under the tree? So let's face it, from an early age our promises have been broken, but we didn't care, we just continued laughing and smiling with no worries because we had no idea with what the future had in store for us. But now we are here. Today I am a seventeen year old girl who is blessed with an amazing family and amazing friends but I live in world where love is such a counterfeit I am not even able to tell what is true love and what is fake love. Two of my friends have just gone through a heavy break-up, my one friend had a long three year relationship and it seemed like butterflies and sunshine but now for him it's just depression and darkness, my other friend as she claims was not in a relationship but more of a "flirtation-ship" but after they had called it off, she felt devastated and she still is. Sadly there isn't much they can do, the two most important people in their lives just got up and left, but I believe locking themselves in their rooms and sitting and crying all day isn't going to do much for both of them, and this isn't just a message to my friends but its a message to anyone who is going through a break-up or is just confused about the theory of love, I say: Get up, forget the past and keep walking. Never ever give up. You have made it this far why should you stop now? People come and go and you need to be able to accept that. This is my first blog. I hope whoever is reading this does not give up and keeps on moving forward.

Till next time...

Love

Candice